Models

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Models approaches dating and seduction as an inward process of self improvement. Instead of teaching special tricks and secrets to get women, Manson simply tells you to be the best, most genuine version of yourself. From there, simply filter out women where there is not mutual attraction and common values.

Summary

  • Goal = Be socially aware yet remain fearless (conveys non-neediness)

  • Attraction

    • Non-neediness is attractive –> All performance is needy

    • Intentions are more important than what you actually do

  • Action

    • Attraction is all about body, expression, emotion, and movement

    • Remove anxiety, and trial-and-error will take care of most of the rest

  • Communication

    • Emotional connection: relate to feelings, not facts

    • Being physical with women is the most important part of seduction

  • Living

    • Pursue your unique life

    • WHY you like or dislike things

    • Your passions and favorite things to do

    • Your dreams, ambitions, life goals

    • The best/worst things that have happened to you

    • Your childhood, family life, and upbringing

What does it subcommunicate if you waited forever to ask a girl out?

Attraction

Non-Neediness

  • Attractiveness is inversely proportional to neediness

  • Neediness = Placing higher priority on others’ perceptions of you than on your self perception

  • Needy man

    • Only respects and invests in others

    • Says and does things for approval (not respected)

    • Sacrifices the best parts of his identity in order to people please

  • Narcissist

    • Only respects and invests in himself

    • Still desperate for the approval of others

    • Only succeeds with women who expect to be treated like shit

  • Non-needy man

    • Does not perform –> actually is less invested

    • Self-respect – Respects and invests in himself AND others

    • Healthy boundaries – Aims to get both their own needs and their partner’s needs met

    • Social competence

    • Healthy life habits – Does things simply for the pleasure of doing

    • Has internal goals (better relationships, overall happiness), not External goals (more dates, more sex)

Vulnerability

  1. Attraction is based non-neediness

    • Attracted to the fact you’re ok being rejected/making mistakes

    • Perfection is not attractive –> It’s your rough edges she’ll be attracted to

  2. Non-neediness is based on being comfortable in vulnerability

    • “Screw the repercussions; this is who I am, and I refuse to be anyone else”

    • Opposite of performing

    • Being vulnerable hurts. It’s embarrassing. It’s difficult

  3. Being comfortable in vulnerability is based on how honest you are to yourself and others

    • Sharing yourself openly with others

    • When opening up – you will have to “get worse before you get better.”

    • Expose yourself and learn that it’s ok to be rejected/making mistakes

Honesty

  • Honesty sub-communicates non-neediness

    • Women are intuitive to emotions, motivations, and social cues

    • Honest –> Dont care about rejection

      • Ulterior motives sub-communicate neediness

  • True honesty is an unconditional gift

    • We all value those who genuinely value us, not expecting something in return

    • Unconditional honesty can be brutal and scathing at times

  • Boundaries

    • Like a filter –> Attract more of the right kind of woman

    • Draw a line in the sand – “I don’t like stuff like that” and she can choose to step across it or not

    • Hold your line, but don’t go around breaking somebody else’s

    • Ability to establish boundaries is inversely proportional to neediness

    • Valuing your own time and happiness more than a womans attention

Dating

Polarisation

  • Men do the initiating (women less invested before sex)

  • 3 categories of women

    1. Unreceptive

      • Identify them and move on as quickly as possible

      • Not worth the effort to change their mind

    2. Neutral

      • Polarize them via words and behaviors (get them to stop being Neutral as soon as possible)

      • The longer you wait, the more likely she will become unreceptive to you (friend zone)

    3. Receptive

      • They initiate with you and reciprocate your actions enthusiastically

      • When you meet a Receptive woman, the goal is simple. You escalate

  • Polarisation

    • Being forthright about who you are, how you feel, and what you think

    • Get her off the fence

    • One of my favorites for Neutral situations: “What’s your favorite thing in the world?”

    • Indicate sexual interest if you feel it (needy not to)

    • You cannot be an attractive and life-changing presence to some women without being a joke to others

    • Forwardness is rarely received badly, even if they reject you

Rejection

  • Rejection eliminates incompatible women who won’t make you happy (not a big deal)

  • You cannot control what happens in every interaction (most of it has nothing to do with you)

  • Pursue women based on your unique values and needs

  • Good or bad reaction, either way you are filtering (polarising) women –> Success

  • Instead of thinking, “I wonder if she’ll like me,” think, “I wonder what she’s like?” (neediness –> interest)

1. Honest Living

Living your best life (determines quantity of women you attract)

Demographics

  • Demographics = Where and in what context you meet women

  • Theory of demographics = You attract women with similar interests/education/success

  • “The only thing all of the women you date have in common is you”

  • Your demographic

    • What is an absolute deal-breaker in the women you date?

    • What are the events or organizations that you can become involved in that explore your hobbies?

  • Friction

    • A demographic mismatch

    • Being funny, rich or good looking wont overpower incompatibility (eg. married)

  • Dominate your demographic

    • Pursue what you’re passionate about to the fullest extent (build on your interests and strengths)

    • Build connections and put yourself into as big of a leadership position as possible

    • BE something attractive > SAY something attractive

Lifestyle and Presentation

  • Men: Physical traits > presentation

  • Women: Presentation > physical traits

  • Fashion

    • Wear clothes that fit, match and suit your personality

    • Good female friends are helpful with shopping, sizes, and what looks good on you

  • Body language

    • Shoulders back, chin up, eyes straight, feet straight, shoulders swagger, arms swing

    • Don’t look down at the ground unless you think you’re about to trip

  • Tone

    • Chest voice (doesnt change when hold your nose)

    • Slow down pace of speech

    • Saying “like” and “umm” conveys lack of sophistication

  • Culture

    • Experience

      • Expand your horizons

      • Depth and character = Have opinions and openly express those opinions

      • Few men have the curiosity to look into new art forms or hobbies

      • Assume everything has a form of value; it’s your job to find it

    • Independence

      • Think independently about your tastes/experiences/opinions

      • Dont let opinions be dictated by pop culture and groups of friends

      • Few men ever stop and actually think critically about why they like certain things

    • Passion

      • In a group of 10 men what makes you unique?

2. Honest Action

Being comfortable with your intentions (determines quality of women you attract)

Your Stories

  • What do you tell yourself to justify the defense mechanisms inside you? What different story can you tell?

  • Stop buying into your own bullshit (eg. “I dont care” and “I’m not prepared enough”)

  • Shame & anxiety

    • Neediness <–> Anxiety

    • Shame <–> Vulnerability

    • Lots of shame bundled up in our sexuality

    • You remove anxiety, and trial-and-error will take care of most of the rest

  • Responsibility

    • Men often blame something else for their fear

    • We make negative assumptions about millions of women to avoid responsibility for their own shortcomings

    • Challenge yourself to find the good and beautiful thing inside of everyone

    • Your best teacher is your experience

  • Porn

    • Porn harms your motivation & creates unrealistic expectations about sex, sexuality and women

    • Limit your masturbation

Overcoming Anxiety

  • Train yourself to behave despite it (negative emotions –> positive behavior)

  • Courage is a habit –> the more you build, the more you’ll be capable of bold actions

  • The way to attack anxieties is through incremental, consistent exposure

    • Just ask what time it is

    • What time it is followed by, “How is your day going?”

    • Asking them out on a date

  • Quantify (and work on) one aspect of your interactions at a time (easier to notice impact)

  • Doing something bold –> communicate that you realize it is abnormal

3. Honest Communication

Expressing our sexuality (determines how efficiently you engage with women)

Intentions

  • Men mostly communicate through facts, stories, and data

  • Women mostly communicate in feelings and through intentions –> Sub-communication

  • Intention = Difference between a tease and an insult, sharing yourself and bragging

  • Your intentions & level of anxiety > what you talk about

  • Creepiness

    • Actions and intentions out of sync –> appear untrustworthy/creepy

    • There’s no such thing as a man who is adored by women who isn’t also creepy some of the time

    • Feeling slutty is about sleeping with a man who doesn’t care about her or who hasn’t connected with her

  • Sexual tension

    • Uncertainty of potential sexual possibilities –> Sexual tension

    • Eg. Breaking rapport, teasing type behaviors

Connection and Flirting

  • Flirting = expressing your sexuality in a way that makes a woman feel sexually secure

  • Approaching

    • First impressions: Source of the majority of our perception of people

    • She doesn’t want to reject you (rejecting someone is awkward)

    • Smile & be direct (but dont scare her)

    • Only ask a woman for her phone number if she seems genuinely interested in you

    • If you sit around for 10 minutes trying to think of what to say to a girl so that she’ll like you, how is that ever not needy?

  • Good conversation

    • Quality > quantity

    • Statements > questions (take a stab at answering the question you want to ask)

    • Storytelling best way to converse

    • Jump off points

      • Parts of a sentence that can spark a new topic of conversation

      • Built a habit of noticing and following jump off points

      • Conversations end when one person’s sentence contains no jump off points for the other

  • Relating and connecting

    • Emotional connection improves relationships, sex, interactions and life in general

    • Women get weak in the knees for this shit

    1. Being open about yourself

      • Take the lead and share these things about yourself

      • Self awareness

        • Know WHY you like or dislike things – expand and talk about them

        • Go one level deeper when looking at your experiences

        • Write down 3 things for each:

          • Your passions and favorite things to do

          • Your dreams, ambitions, life goals

          • The best/worst things that have happened to you

          • Your childhood, family life, and upbringing

    2. Getting her to be open about herself

      • Every woman has something to connect with (a feeling, experience, desire, …) –> It’s your job to dig it out

      • Learn about her past, her passions, her dreams, what her favorite things are

    3. Relating to each other’s experiences

      • Relate to feelings, not facts

  • Flirting

    • Teasing and Sarcasm

      • Done in good humor and with good intentions

      • Generally women who don’t enjoy being teased really appreciate genuine compliments

    • Wordplay and Puns

    • Roleplaying and Games

    • Watch a lot of stand-up comedians

    • Beware of falling into the trap of self-deprecating humor

Dating

  • Flakes

    • You’re better off just letting it go and moving on

    • Focus on demographic (women that may like you) to reduce flaking

  • Texting

    • Texting is, in general, an awful medium for communication

    • Use clear, blunt language, don’t get fancy or cute in your texts

    • Only use texting to organize when to see each other next

    • One of the quickest ways to lose a girl is by texting her stuff that’s way too try-hard

  • Dates

    • Intimacy comes from the experiences we share

    • Good dates involves things that are active, participatory, and allow for touching and flirting

    • Never say “what do you want to do now?”

Physicality and Sex

  • Male attraction (simple, visual)

    • We usually like similar features (symmetry, large breasts, etc.)

  • Female attraction (complex, psychological)

    • Women are turned on by being wanted, by being desired

    • No specific type

    • Needs to feel comfortable and secure

  • Physicality

    • Being physical with women is by far the most important part of seduction and dating women

    • Use your touching to punctuate the conversation

    • Start on the outside of her body (arms/legs) and slowly move closer into her body

    • If you think you can kiss her, you probably could have ten minutes ago

    • Some yes signals

      • Non-Accidental Eye Contact

      • Smiling

      • Flipping or Playing with Her Hair

      • Excessive Smiling/Laughing

      • Excessive Eye Contact

      • Prioritizes You

      • Isolates Herself with You

  • Sex

    • Key factor is how comfortable the two people are with each other

    • Require lots of build up (foreplay & teasing)

    • Be expressive and honest (with what you like and dont like)

    • PE or ED: Problem is not being completely comfortable with your sexuality and having sex

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